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Does your guy throw a hissy if you don’t call at least once a day? Does he need to know where you are every second? Does he complain that your career gets more attention than he does?

I hate to tell you this buy you are dating a “chick.”

And it may not be  his fault. For decades we have complained that we want men to be more sensitive. And now, unfortunately, we have gotten our wish.

Men have taken this desire a bit too much to heart. They haven’t understood that we want them to be strong and manly yet able to have a meaningful conversation.

Telivision ads and the beauty industry have not helped. Now we not only have them going to the gym but buffing, scrubbing and moisturizing as much as we do. Have you seen the number of men with highlights in their hair? My roots show more often than my male friends these days.

I guess the question is,” Can a real man be sensitive without losing that inherintly masculine part of himself that draws us to the opposite sex in the first place or should we all just move to Alaska where not all of them have access to Sex in the City?”

Hi all

Many of you have written in a bit bumbed that your sweetie is overseas. It can be hard to stay in touch and keep the romance going, especially when overseas cell phone bills can run high. After all you would much rather take that extra money and put it toward a plane tickets so you can go see him in person or fly him home to you right?

Well here is an easy way to save money on those long distance phone cards for calls to Europe or the middle east to india phone card.

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I know that there is nothing better than one on one time but if you can’t be near each other you can at least do your best to stay close through the phone and internet. And I believe you should be able to do that without having to take out a loan. Try this service and take the money you get back in their rebate program and apply it to an actual face to face encounter with the one you love.

Sincerely,

Caterina Christakos - author of the Seduction Game for Women

Do you think Oprah is a lusty lady?

I’m not a sex machine by any stretch, but I wouldn’t be offended if I were referred to as a “lusty lady”. I enjoy sex and my partner thinks that I’m pretty darn good. Of course, that’s because I’ve done a lot of reading and studying on the subject as you loyal subscribers already know

So when I first heard about a new book called 500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets, I was a bit skeptical. I didn’t think there were 500 things about making love left for me to learn. I was about to pass on the opportunity to read the book until I noticed that it had been seen on Oprah. Now, I have no evidence to back me up on this, but you can just take a look at Oprah and pretty much figure that she’s a lusty lady when she’s alone with her partner. If that book was good enough for Oprah, it was worth my time to read.

Holy Guacamole, I never did THAT with a mirror

Let me tell you ladies, I thought that I had figured out every use for a mirror in the bedroom, but author Michael Webb showed me two more that I would have never considered on my own. And that was just a start.

When I read the tip called “One simple trick to make your wife scream in delight like never before.” I was hooked. I definitely wanted THAT done to me.

I think that the best thing about this book is that it really DOES give you 500 tips. And while all 500 may not be right up your alley, a lot of them will be like a roadmap to the land of the “Big O” (and I don’t mean Oprah or Overstock.com either).  And there’s nothing raunchy or “dirty” that you’d feel uncomfortable doing to someone (or having someone do to you). That makes it all the more exciting to read as you fantasize what it’s going to be like the next time you’re in bed with your lover.

The other “best thing” is that it’s a “his and her” book. There are things that he can do for you and things that you can do for him. If you both read it, your sex life will probably never be the same again.

This book is a definite “waker upper” for those whose sex life has been taking a nap for too long, and it’s a dose of gasoline on the burning fires of sexual delight for those who are already hot, hot, hot.

So either way, you’re going to want to grab 500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets, read it, and then go grab your bedmate!

See you in the land of the “Big O”,

Caterina

P.S. When you are reading 500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets, make sure that you read the one called “Ways to use your mouth on her that will drive her absolutely wild” and then teach THAT to your partner. You could throw the rest of the book away and live off the body-racking pleasure that you’ll get from that one tip alone.

Hi all

I have been in a seminar for the last several weekends that has really revived my belief in romance. While taking Daniel Olson’s NLP Practitioner training I have had the chance to meet some amazing women that are actually walking the talk of good relationships.

One woman, from France, has a view of relationships that one only seems to see in the movies. She and her husband recently renewed their vows and her face still lights up after nine years of being together. She absolutely believes in love at first site and the power of “what is meant to be.” Another woman in the group considers her husband as her best friend and is able to maintain their relationship while working together - an amazing feat.

Some might say, “there must be something in the air.” For example, the husband of one of our neighbors just planted a rose garden in his wife’s honor for their anniversary. Others might think that these women just got lucky.

I believe that something more is going on here. Men and women are becoming more savvy where relationships are concerned. We are learning that if you want romantic love then you have to work at it.

Although all the women that attended Dan’s seminar were there to get their NLP certification, when asked what we wanted to get out of the course, we all stated personal goals. We then used NLP techniques to achieve them. The main theme seemed to be to find balance between our careers, our relationships and our need to still feel like confident, desirable women.

As a dating columnist and author, I am always looking for new techniques to share with you and to learn for myself. Several of the techniques we learned this weekend focused on letting go of the guilt associated with doing things for ourselves so that we could have the positive energy to devote to our relationships. It was amazing how every woman in the room seemed to have the exact same issues. We all want to have our careers and our own interests while still keeping the romance and devotion alive in our relationships. Once you let go of the guilt, it is amazing how much time becomes available for both.Balance seems to occur when we allow ourselves to feel loving, not just to others but to ourselves. It is incredible how some of the NLP techniques taught in this course helped dissolve the confusion. They also seemed to open up a whole new level of communication for these women in their relationships. Within the first day we were all reporting the ability to read the body language of our significant others on a whole new level.

If you are looking for new ways to relate to others, view yourself and achieve balance then I highly recommend Dan’s course. It isn’t touted as a “relationship course” but the techniques that you will learn can be applied to every area of your life.

Let me know when you take the course. I would love to post your feedback.

Sincerely,

Caterina Christakos - founder of seductiondiva.com - a positive place for women and girls

Hi all

Today’s subject - the Breakup Blues

As you know I have alot of male friends. This can be a blessing and a curse. My male friends are awesome at giving advice about their gender. If I just want to know what one of my client’s boyfriends are thinking or what their actions mean I just dial up one of my male confidantes and get the scoop.

The danger of having male friends though is when they are going through a break up. Friendship and comforting can easily become more. It’s a fine line that you have to walk in this situation. His vulnerability can trigger every nurturing instinct that you have. Believe me I have been there. And you can end up being the rebound girl before he either moves on or goes back to the one who made him eat his heart out to begin with.

Many of your write to me asking if you should comfort a man that you are interested in. The answer, unfortunately, is not unless you are looking for a short term relationship or worse yet a one night stand. Be his friend, comfort him but do so as if he was a child. He may not be in the right state to make good decisions. If you choose to comfort him do so knowing that it is your responsibility to pull back and keep things on a platonic level. I don’t care how many times he tells you how great you are or how he never noticed how wonderful you are. You don’t want to be the one who helps him through this time of his life. You want to be the one who helps him into the next better part. Any intimacy that you two have during this period could end up hurting you once he gets out of this fragile state.

Sincerely,

Caterina Christakos - founder of seductiondiva.com - The Seduction Guide for Women

Hi all

So you or your guy has put off getting reservations until the last minute and now, surprise surprise, everything including the local pizzeria is booked up. You have two choices to save this Valentines Day:

1) Go to the supermarket and buy the ingredients for a simple but fabulous meal. There are a million free recipes online that you can use.

2) You can go to the local deli or gourmet market and choose some yummy finger foods and a nice bottle of wine. Lay a blanket down on the floor of your living room and have a romantic picnic right in your own home.

But you wanted to dress up, you say? Well, what is stopping you? Wear that fabulous dress, shave all appropriate areas, moisturize and primp. Make his jaw drop when he walks in the door.  Remember to have on silky, sexy undergarments - that match - even if this is the beginning of your relationship and he will never actually see them. This is the one day a year that most women allow themselves to feel sexy, attractive and irresistable.

As Divas you can use it as practice for the other 364 days of the year.

Now go have a fabulous Valentines Day and feel free to share some of the romantic details.

Sincerely,

Caterina Christakos - author of the Seduction Game for Women

Hi all

The topic of the day is gift ideas for men for Valentines Day. Let’s face it buying a Valentine’s Day gift for a man is a bit more difficult than their task of buying for us. Any man with half a brain knows that flowers, candy and jewelry are probably the top three Valentines Day gifts that we will ooh and ahh over. But if you are thinking of sending him flowers you may want to think again. Getting a dozen roses at work is a good way to get your guy laughed out of a job. Or at the very least teased every Valentines Day for life.

Go practical but thoughtful for your guys or go steamy. For example, my guy loves ties and is very specific about the brand he wears. A tie from his favorite designer would have him grinning for a week. That would be the practical but thoughtful gift. For steamy, I would buy myself lingerie from a store that he has oh so enthusiastically supported in the past and never hear a single complaint about not buying him a “gift.”

To help you on your quest for the perfect Valentines Day gift here are some discounts I found online from stores that men typically love:

Watches:

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Clothes:
Men’s apparel on sale, select brands up to 85% off at Buckle.com!

Camping Equipment:
Special Savings Coupons from Camping World.

Sports:
Champs Sports Customer Appreciation Sale! Take 25% off no minimum. Use Code LKS18JMR. Valid 1.17-1.21.

Take him on a Romantic Valentines Day Trip:
Cheaptickets Big City Sale: Save $75! (Expires Feb. 24)

Save up to 50% on Last Minute Fares at Hotwire!

Lingerie - a gift you can share
Superstar Sale at Frederick’s of Hollywood

Golf Gifts:
Free PGA Tour Sunglasses with any Purchase

Electronics:

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Toshiba A205-S5803 15.4 Notebook - $449.99 After $185 Mail-in Savings and $15 Instant Rebate! (online price $634.99)

Sharper Image Gifts - Need I say more

For a limited time, save an additional 10% off all On-Sale items: expires 2-4-08

I will update this list with more gift possibilities and coupons as I find them. Remember think practical and thoughtful or out and out steamy and romantic when choosing gift ideas for men for Valentines Day. Let him know that you are thinking about him and appreciate all the little ways he brings romance and excitement into your life. The more your guy feels appreciated the more he will be willing to do all those little romantic and sexy things that you love.

Sincerely,

Caterina Christakos - author of the Seduction Game for Women

Hi all

Today’s dating and relationship advice is on how to use The Secret to manifest your ideal relationship. Creating a wonderful relationship and discovering your perfect mate is about more than just visualization. You need to feel as if you are already the lead in an amazing romance.

1) Sit down and write down exactly what your ideal relationship will look like.

2) Read it out loud.

3) Envision it happening, as if you are watching a movie.

4) Step into that movie so that you actually feel what you will feel when it happens.

5) Put all of this in the now. This is not a I will be happen when … scenario. You must feel as if you already have this perfect relationship.

6) Look at your environment. Is there anything in your home that would negate this perfect relationship? Eliminate all clutter and all negative imagery. Add romantic images to your home - ex. roses, hearts, pictures of happy couples kissing…

7) Look at your actions. If you are staying home every Saturday night with a pint of Ben and Jerry’s you are not exactly telling the universe or your unconscious that you are ready for a relationship.

Continue with the imagery, vocalizing of your intent and feeling the feeling of being in a happy couple until you manifest the relationship of your dreams.

Sincerely,

Caterina Christakos - author of the Seduction Game for Women

Hi all

Here are my best dating tips condenced:

• Write down exactly what you want in a man and a relationship
• Choose locations to meet that type of man  where you are guaranteed to have at least one common interest
• Use your body language to attract his attention
• Use eye flirtation to ensure that he knows that you are interested
• Have a set of questions memorized to pre-screen him
• Before your first date visualize how you would like the evening to end. Make it real. Say it out loud as you visualize if it helps to make it more real for you.
• Choose your wardrobe carefully. You should look sexy and confident. Do not show too much skin. You want to tantalize him. Leave something to his imagination.
• Have a few topics of conversation ready in case there are any awkward pauses in the conversation.
• Have a friend call you halfway through your date just in case he isn’t the gentleman that he first appeared to be.
• Give him a peck on the cheek or a quick peck on the lips if you are interested in a second date.
• Be honest if you don’t intend to see him again. You hate it when guys leave you hanging. Be gracious and let him down easy.
• If you are going to go on a second date, begin the visualization process again. Knowing what you want from a relationship and visualizing it will bring you that much closer to having it.

And those are just a few of my best dating tips. For even more in depth dating advice read my book - The Seduction Game for Women

Hi all

Believe it or not, the dating advice for women that I give is not that different from the dating advice for men that I give my coaching clients.

• First know what you want from a relationship before you consider going out with someone. Are you looking for a casual couple of dates or a long term commitment?

Knowing this you can easily make a quick decision on whether to say yes or no to a potential date. Some guys just have player written all over them. These guys are fine for a short term romance but your radar should go haywire with do not trespass signals if you are looking for something more long term.

• Next based on your first decision you can narrow down your choices on where to meet your next Mr. Right.

Short term fling? Bars and clubs or your local coffee house are a good place to look. Long term romance more your style? Check into your local clubs ( ex. racketball club, book club, etc…)  and organizations ( young entrepreneurs, volunteer groups , etc…). Pick a club that you actually have an interest in and you will at least know that the two of you have something in common right off the bat.

• Third, if at all possible, ask around about your potential date before saying yes.

Most of us have a dating reputation, whether we know it or not. If he is the love em and leavem type there are probably some other women who have been left waiting by the phone the day after.

• Fourth, again if at all possible, try to arrange a double date for your first time out.

Often our friends are better able to judge our dates better than we can. Your best gal pal can probably see all the dents in his armor better than you can. You want everything to be perfect. She will help you steer clear of what will soon be obvious to you three dates down the line. On top of that you will have someone who knows exactly where you are on your first date and can help get you out of there if your creep radar was on the blink.

These are just a few tips from the dating advice for women and men that I give my relationship coaching clients. Start out knowing what you want from your relationship and it will help weed out the bad dates and lead to the right relationship.

Sincerely,

Caterina Christakos - author of the Seduction Game for Women